The other day some friends asked me what Tacomob actually means and stands for. As this is a FAQ I often encounter, let me share my thoughts here:
In one sentence, I prefer to Tacomob instead of mentally doing other’s business.
What do I mean with “other’s business”?
Example thoughts of being in “other’s business”:
- You need to get a job.
- I want you to be happy.
- You should be on time.
- My wife should love me more.
- You need to take better care of yourself.
- Julie did not smile at me.
- My children do not care enough for me.
- My employer should appreciate me.
- People should be kinder to me.
You will have noticed that in all the above examples, the person thinking these thoughts is linking his well-being to something someone else should or should not do, which obviously is out of his control. It is the other person’s business to do or not do what he needs to do, not yours.
If you do not waste your energy minding other people’s business, you can be much more focused on taking care of your own business; to Tacomob and be relatively stress free.
Examples of Tacomob:
- Taking care of my health.
- Maintaining peace of mind.
- Doing what is right for my heart.
- Giving my 100% in whatever I take up.
- Investing for the long-term.
- Apply the hard, slow, rational thinking often.
- Taking full responsibility for my life without resorting to blame.
So the next time you feel stress, the best thing to do is to take a look at whose business you are in. Chances are that you are doing other’s business.
You can then laugh at it, let it go, and get back to Tacomob—which really is doing the right thing for yourself—instead of dwelling on external circumstances you have no control over and becoming miserable.
To Tacomob means having the courage to act instead of react.
Tacomob could also be described as Egoism, which is both a psychological theory (everyone IS selfish) and a normative view (everyone OUGHT to be selfish).
Isn’t it rational to be selfish? What do you think?
“Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful, lest you let other people spend it for you.” — Carl Sandburg, author