Here is a bit of philosophy to assist in rapidly finding someone (else) to blame :
“Huey, Dewey and Louie. You stand accused of a grievous crime. What do you have to say for yourselves?”
“Yes, I did it,” said Huey. “But it wasn’t my fault. I consulted a financial expert at my bank and she told me that was what I ought to do. So don’t blame me, blame her.”
“I too did it,” said Dewey. “But it wasn’t my fault. I consulted a famous blogger and he told me that was what I ought to do. So don’t blame me, blame him.”
“I won’t deny it,” said Louie. “But it wasn’t my fault. I consulted an astrologer and he told me that since Neptune was in Aries, that’s what I should have done. So don’t blame me, blame him.”
The judge, Mr. Market, sighed and issued his verdict. “Since this case is so common, I have had to discuss it with all other market players. And I’m afraid to say that your argument did not persuade them. I sentence you all to the maximum term. But please remember that I consulted my peers and they told me to deliver this sentence. So don’t blame me, blame the entire market.”
(Freely adapted from Existentialism and Humanism by Jean Paul Satre, 1946)
It appears that the outcomes of our actions have a retrospective effect on whether or not we were truly responsible for them.
We fool ourselves if we think that we can diminish our responsibility purely by seeking the advice of others.
Instead of being purely responsible for what we choose to do, we are now also responsible for our choice of advisers (who are the relevant experts, anyway?) and our willingness to follow their advice (should I or should I not?).
There are really too many such “responsibility-choices”, so how can one choose among them?
I prefer to keep it simple by simply choosing to be always solely responsible for my own actions and no longer blame others or the circumstances.
So, am I the only fully qualified expert on how I should live my life?
Of course I am. Because achieving—from start to end—is my responsibility. I’m ultimately in charge of my own life.
Everyone has this same permission. We just need to recognize that it’s ours to grant and that it’s not something extended externally.
Personally, I find it difficult to imagine how I might be considered a success, if I had not achieved being a person who accepts full responsibility for my own life.
I must Take Care Of My Own Business, because no one else can do that for me.
Here some comic relief after that heavy topic: George Ezra – Blame It On Me
“The final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” — Anne Frank, author
“The problem of distinguishing what we are and what we are not responsible for in this life is one of the greatest problems of human existence…we must possess the willingness and the capacity to suffer continual self-examination.” — M. Scott Peck, psychiatrist and author
“A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the “why” for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any “how”.” — Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning